INCLUSION: How to Host an Inclusive Playdate with New School Friends

The start of a new school year often comes with new friendships, bigger social circles, and opportunities for your child to connect outside the classroom. One of the best ways to help those friendships grow is by hosting a playdate.

An inclusive playdate makes every child feel welcome, valued, and able to participate—whether they’re shy, outgoing, athletic, artistic, neurodiverse, or living with a disability.

Here’s how to plan a playdate that helps kids connect, learn from each other, and have a whole lot of fun.

Ask About Preferences and Needs Beforehand

When inviting new friends over, reach out to their parents ahead of time. Ask:

“Is there anything I should know to make your child feel comfortable?”

“Do they have any favorite activities or games?”

“Do they have allergies or accessibility needs?”

“Would you like to stay with your child or drop them off?”

This not only shows you care—it sets you up for a smoother day for everyone.

Prepare Activities Where Everyone Can Shine

Aim for activities that provide multiple ways to participate and allow the kids to have age-appropriate independence. Supervise without intervention when possible!

Some ideas include:

Sports equipment for free play like pick up games, obstacle courses, and more!

Using sidewalk chalk and/or art materials to create art projects.

Making friendship bracelets, eye chains, or necklaces.

A LEGO® or building block station.

Music and movement games.

Making a special snack to share.

Board and card games.

Keep Snacks Simple and Safe

Offer snacks and drinks that are easy to handle and allergy-friendly. Ask parents about restrictions in advance to avoid surprises. Check out some of our favorites here!

Confirm plan for pets

Many children are nervous and anxious around unfamiliar pets, and many pets are nervous and anxious around unfamiliar children. To help everyone be more comfortable, it may be best to keep pets secured in a separate space for the playdate to prevent issues or injuries.

Why Inclusive Playdates Matter

When we intentionally create spaces where every child feels seen and valued, we’re teaching more than just play skills—we’re nurturing empathy, teamwork, and lifelong social confidence. That’s a gift that goes far beyond one afternoon.

The best inclusive playdates aren’t about fancy activities or perfect hosting—they’re about creating an environment where every child feels they belong. With a little planning, your home can be the starting place for friendships that last all school year (and beyond).